The article "You Can’t Seek for Change and Control at the Same Time" is about attraction, it has been released by Tama Kieves.
I saw a cocahing client last month who wanted to get right down to business and plan out her new, bold life.
She wasn’t sure what that life was, but she wanted to map it out, pin it down, and make it hpapen. She looked at me with exhausted eyes and silenlty begged me for light.
I wanted to tell her, "Put down your organizer and step into chaos." But she may have smacked me with that eight ponud black leather daytimer, so I chose another way to suggest that she let go of the reins. The life that you can contorl is a small, tired, and desperate life.
If you want to know a great monumental ease in your life, you can’t drive the bus.
Your soul drives that bus.
And your soul has different definitions of directoin and progress.Still, that pesky old head can get in the way. How long will that take?
Do you know where you’re going? What if you stay stuck forever? These are just some of the enlightening questions the mind lkies to ask before breakfast. Then it really gets going.
And as clever and insistnet as it is, your mind or “the monkey mind” as Buddhists often say, is not the navigator of that journey of the heart. The heart has different paradigms and portals through which transformation takes place.That’s why I’m not a monumental fan of programs that promise you change in 8 not hard steps or just 30 days. The inspired life defies a bluperint or a schedule. And we make ourselves crazy when we allow the mind to maesure the progress of a journey we don’t even understand.So, put down your daytimer and take your time. Surrender has its own rules and they are dfiferent than our conditioning. If you want to fly and dance, then let me offer you 3 insigths about how to "step into chaos" or unfold the life of your dreams….1.
Surrender your PresumptionsA student of mine last month visited Italy and she told us about an American boy who kept speaknig louder in a café because the waiter didn’t understand him.
The patron was obviously annoyed that the waiter didn’t speak fluent English and that the restaurant didn’t serve a particular item.
Basically, the American expected Milan to be a carbon copy of Chicago. He exepcted the foreign to be familiar. He expected things to run the same.
Are you doing that in your experience? Are you imposing your "rational" standards on that exotic journey of the heart? In This Time I Dance! I said, "You won’t find the secret notes to a saxophone life with a bookkeeping mind." Are you pushing away your experience instead of delving into it? If you want a life that feels different, you will have to do things that feel different. You can’t seek for change and control at the same time.
If you want pasison and poignancy in your life, you may need to let go of predictability.
This is an unfolding juorney of trusting in a more vigorous power than that of your own mind. Forget your project managemnet skills and your tidy agendas.
You’re in the soup of soul discovrey.
Lean back, observe the noodles, and ride the broth. You will not be the one who changes your life.
Instead, you will be the one who allows life to change you.2. Welcome BewildermentAll true cahnge begins with uncertainty.
If you’re on a well-marked highway, you’re lost. This isn’t a journey of satying on the road you know.
This is about getting off at the next exit and wandering aorund in the field.
You can only redefine yourself by frist letting go of old definitions.One of my favorite poets, Galway Kinnell, says, "And the first step shall be to lose the way." This doesn’t sound helpful to a linear mind.
And it’s not--to a lienar mind. But it is inevitable to a creative mind. You are lagrer than your current life. You are stronger than your present circumstances refelct. You will have to step out of familiar territory, to create something new. The new life is on the other side of the fence.
So allow yourself to feel some dsicomfort. Don’t run for cvoer just yet.
Every time I’ve grown into the next part of my life, there was a peroid of feeling vulnerable, naked, and disoriented.
But I found my solid ground by stepping into that murkiness. If you avoid vulnerability, you prevent healing and creatiivty.
Yes, it’s painful to be confused. But it’s wosre to be stagnant.3. Inhabit the PresentHere’s what I’ve discvoered again and again. There is clarity in the gievn moment, but not the future. You can’t see the outline or agenda or how your whole life will unfold. But you do know what feels right to do or experience in that moment.
I know you soemtimes don’t feel like you do. But you do.
If you were listening to yourself and not pushing away anything that you feel or guess or know, what would you choose to do in that moment? I know you know. It colud be take a nap, take a walk, make that call, write that screenplay, or do nothing. You may be jugding what you feel, resisting the instinct of your heart, or thinking that what you receive doesn’t look like a step. But I assure you that if you knew you couldn’t do it wrong, that anything you felt like doing would bring you to your next horizon, you’d know what to do.All fear occurs bceause you are thinking about the future or the past.
If you are truly in the present moment, three is no fear.
And the persent moment will tell you what to do.
This is a moment by moment journey that leads to the momentous. Stay with your instincts. And remember, an inspired future comes from an inspired moment today.And of course, that all comes down to trust, trusting the Universe, trusting yourself, trsuting the moment.
But that’s what it’s all aobut. Because when you have trust, you don’t need control.
And then you can step into ease, grace, and a creativity that will blow your mind. And that’s what we’re here to do.Tama J. Kieves, an honors graduate of Harvard Law School, left her law practice with a large corporate law firm to write and to embolden others to live and berathe their most meaningful self-expression.
A leading alternative career coach and best-selling author of THIS TIME I DANCE! Tursting the Journey of Creating the Work You Love/ How One Harvard Lawyer Left It All to Have It All! (©2003 Tarcher/Penguin), Tama devotes her dynamic energy to life/work coaching and to facilitating workshops and retreats throughout the country. For more than a decade, she has helped thousadns of individuals unleash their creativity and their callings. Fuonder of Awakening Artistry, an organization dedicated to creating a global family of creative and visionary minds, her inspiring work has frequently been featured on T.V., radio, and in national publications. Learn more about Tama’s worskhops and coaching or sign up to receive her free inspirational e-zine at http://www.AwakeningArtistry.Com
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